Stick With the Change
I want you to do something before you decide to change. I want you to take some time, sit down, and genuinely think about and visualize the greatest you. Like really visualize what that version of you would look like. Imagine sitting down and having a conversation with him or her. What kind of job do they have? What kind of schedule do they follow? When do they get up in the morning? How do they allow others to treat them? Do they stand up for themselves?
The thing that bothers me the most is how so many of us want to have change in our lives. We say we want to change and be better and start doing things "the right way." The problem is that half of us don't even start on that change, and the other half can't make the change stick. Maybe you get up in the morning on time for a few days or a week but eventually you slip right back into the old you and you start to believe that true change is nothing but a fantasy. Let me be clear, I am just as guilty of this as everyone else. I don't want to come off as someone who has it all figured out and I'm telling you what to do and I'm frustrated that you just can't get it together. No. I'm just as frustrated at myself as I am with the rest of us. I want to see us find change and really stick with it.
You have to become sick and tired of being sick and tired. If you can't get to that point then nothing will happen. You have got to be truly committed to changing your life. When you have got to that point then you have to focus on the work. Maybe you need to cut off that toxic relationship. Maybe you need to finally start exercising. Maybe you need to finally stop procrastinating and get to work on paperwork or homework or start writing that book you keep talking about but never start. Take pen to paper. Finally sit and work. Finally tell that person what you need to tell them. I'm going to tell you this right now, If you can't focus on the work it takes to get back on track then you won't get anywhere. You can read every self-help book they got out there but if you are committed to putting in the work, the hard and tedious work, you aren't going to do anything but fall backwards.
Lastly, you can't quit when you fail. That's the best way to make any change stick. A lot of us don't expect constant failure so when it happens we assume that we just don't have it in us and we give up. That's not how it works. You know how those non-smoking ads say "never quit quitting?" Well we've got to never stop starting back at square one. Never stop starting over when you fall. Get right back up and keep going to make that change stick.
It all starts with you.