Stop Allowing Entitlement
Today I want to give some advice to the parents out there who read my blog. My advice starts like this: As a parent, do not allow your kid to be placed above correction in your eyes. What I mean by that is that we live in a time now where it often seems like parents have these blinders on where they start to believe that their kids are seriously angels who can do no wrong. Now do not get me wrong, I definitely think that you should believe in your kids and it is okay to think that your children are amazing because they probably are amazing, but it is important to also keep in mind that they are not only human, but they are young humans who are still trying to figure everything out are they have so much to learn. You need to have a serious reality check if you believe that your kids are on the same level as you in terms of learning about life. Think about all of the times that you learned about life by messing up so bad that, at the time, you were not even sure if things would ever get better. Now think about how many things your kids have yet to mess up and learn from. If your kids have never messed up then you should be even more worried because they still have even more messing up and learning to do.
If we continue to believe that our kids can do no wrong and place them above correction then we build up - and I am going to blame the parents, I am going to blame us - a generation of entitlement. A lot of kids today, because of this entitlement, believe that they should have whatever they want just because. They think they should be playing sports just because they want to play. It doesn’t work like that though, right? Or they start to believe that just because I want this or just because I want that then I should get it. That is entitlement. So one thing that I teach the kids that I coach, and one thing I teach the kids that I mentor is this: The world is not going to give you anything in your life just because you want it. You know, maybe when you are a kid people will feel sorry for you or take pity on you and they will give you something you do not deserve, but the real world does not work like that when you grow up and get older. The problem is we are teaching kids something that is totally untrue about the world and then they get older and they are hit in the face with the way that life really is. We should not be doing this to them. We should be better at preparing them for the world they are growing up to face. We should not allow entitlement.
It all starts with you.