Stop Avoiding Your Pain
I'm going to say something in this post that many people won't want to hear. Many people may label me as insensitive, but I know what it took to make change in my life, and if you were a part of my inner circle group, you know too. I'm not going to allow anyone to just sit in their pain. Pain doesn't give you an excuse to be unkind, talk a certain way, put others down, or give pain to other people. Let me tell you something -- that is not going to heal you. If you look around, it will seem like a lot of people think that giving pain is the best way to heal pain but that is just not true.
I am sure you have heard the phrase, "hurt people hurt people." When you are hurt, you are particularly susceptible to hurting others. I may not understand what you went through, but I know what you could put other people through if you are not careful. I certainly know what it means to be in a really bad place in your life. Trust me, I have been there. It feels like everything sucks, everything is going against you, and everyone is out to get you. You feel so skeptical about anyone and everything and you feel like every positive thing in the world is a scam.
Let me tell you something -- if everything around you is negative, if everyone is telling you that you are a negative person, you have to take ownership of that. I'm not saying that everyone else is always right about you. Haters are haters, but when everyone is telling you the same thing and you are the only common denominator then you probably need to do some self reflection. If that person is you then I want you to take ownership of that. Stop believing that the world is out to get you because maybe you are the one making everything negative. I'm not saying you started it, because your pain is your pain. But when you choose to continue that pain and that negativity and you allow yourself to become the negative one then you become responsible for keeping things negative instead of growing in your life. Going through hard times is not an excuse to act like a bad person (I'll stick with "bad person" in exchange for another word). Going through hard times is not an excuse to tear down other people.
Everybody is not out to get you. You have to fully accept your story and deal with it on your own level to be able to let go of it. If you avoid your pain forever, let me tell you something, it's not going anywhere. You will continue to carry it and hurt other people as a result. If you can face your pain then you can conquer it. Stop avoiding and pushing your pain onto others. Face it and evolve.
It all starts with you.