Many people tell me about being at a low point in their lives and not knowing how to get out. People ask me how to unlock their power to get out of these dark places and low points, and my first thought is always that the key to getting out of these dark places and situations is not as complicated as you might think. So I can certainly empathize with people in these dark places because I remember getting to the lowest point in my life and not knowing how to get out. The only thing I knew for sure was that I was not going to stay there. I didn't know how I was going to get out of the rut I found myself in, but I knew that I needed to and so I wouldn't quit until I was out.
Sometimes all you need to know is that you do not want to stay where you are at. You know, mentally, physically, or even spiritually. Sometimes you have to remember the worst places in your life vividly to keep you on track to get better. When you find yourself hating where you are at, hold onto what is so bad about that place. Hold onto how much you can't stand being where you are at. The second you stop caring about where you are at in your life, even if you hate it, is the second you freeze in place. You will not become motivated to leave a hell that you have come to terms with living in.
Hear me when I say this -- nobody else has the best tool for you to get out of the place you are in. That tool is yourself. You are going to be the best tool to get yourself better. You are going to be the best tool to help you move forward, to help you get where you want to be. I say this to remind you of one great point that has probably been keeping you from moving forward: Self-deprecation. Stop telling yourself that you deserve where you are because you just do not have what it takes to be better or have a better life. Sure, you deserve what you settle for, but just because something is hard to achieve does not mean that you don't deserve it. It is so important for you to understand that life is all about receiving challenges and then overcoming them to get where you need to be. The things that you should have in your life are not going to just be handed to you without any work on your part. It is going to take hard work and determination. Start relying on yourself as your greatest tool to get where you need to be and stop being complacent about where you are in your life if you know you do not want to be there. Hold onto why you don't like where you are so you can stay motivated to move on from that place!
It all starts with you.
