Stop Being Used
Before I get into this message today, I want to be clear that I really do not want you guys to overthink what I am telling you. I do not want you guys to start believing that everybody in your life does not care about you and is out to get you because that is not the point of what I am saying and that is not the message I would like to spread. That being said, there are going to be people in your life who just do not want the best for your life. Especially when they know that they can take advantage of you. Especially when they can see your insecurities and they know how to exploit that. One way you can know that someone in your life wants to be able to take advantage of you is that they are always trying to secure your insecurities. They are always trying to gain your trust for you to tell them all about your insecurities.
A real friend, a good friend, will ask you to be open and honest with you, sure, but when there are things that are clearly too personal or things that you are not comfortable talking about yet, then a good friend will let you know that it is also totally okay to not say anything about that insecurity you are dealing with. A lot of fake friends, or people who will use you in your life are the kinds of people who will do nothing but dig and dig and dig until they get you to share things that you are not comfortable sharing because all they want to do is lock down your insecurities so they will know how to better take advantage of you. I know it is a hard truth to come to terms with but there will always be people who come into your life and try to take advantage of you, and you have got to be aware of that possibility to keep from being used all of the time by the people in your life.
The reason these bad friends want to gain your trust is because when they gain your trust and they secure your insecurities then they can come in, take control, and take advantage of your life. Now I am not saying that you need to always do things and expect things in return but if you are always doing something for somebody else and you are never getting anything back from them then it is pretty clear what kind of relationship the two of you have. A good relationship should be reciprocal. You should get close to the same amount out of a relationship as you put into it. If it is always you giving over and over and over again, then it definitely might be that you are being used by the other person. Look for the signs and stop being used.
It all starts with you.