Stop Blaming Everyone Else
I want to talk about the phrase I always use in these blogs, "it all starts with you." This phrase has literally changed my life and my perspective for the good. Whenever things were down in my life for whatever reason, whenever I was feeling like the world was out to get me, whenever I was feeling sorry for myself, the only thing that helped me was looking in the mirror and finally taking responsibility for where I was in my own life. I had to realize that change started with me and me alone.
If you are in a place in your life where you feel like you've hit the end of the road or you've hit rock bottom you have got to know that the upswing starts with you choosing to find the good. It starts with you choosing to be better than whatever got you down in the first place. Let me be clear: By no means do I mean to imply that your pain is your fault, but what I mean is that you are the only one who is going to save you from your pain. Don't let the pain break you. Instead let the pain make you. Use your past as fuel. You are not your mistakes. Instead you can let your mistakes lead you to the choice to be better than those mistakes.
I want to challenge you right now. Wherever you are in your life, wherever you are in your journey you have got to tell yourself right now, "it is on me." Don't just acknowledge it. Literally do this. If you are serious about changing your life. If you are serious about being better and getting better then you have got to start with this thought. Start with this statement. "It is on me." It is on you to change. It is on you to start your upswing. Start taking responsibility for where you are. Even if you didn't put yourself there, you can decide to be the one who won't stay there.
You can sit wherever you are in your life and be unhappy while blaming everyone else outside of you. You can blame your ex. You can blame your parents. You can even blame the president, but let me tell you something. If you blame anyone other than yourself for why you are staying in your current situation then you are giving them power to control your life. You are accepting how things are is the way they will stay because you have decided that you are powerless.
If you want to change then you have got to stop pointing the finger. If you want to change your life you have got to accept that responsibility and that means accepting that responsibility now. If you are in the place to change then you can't say next year. Don't say next year, don't say next month, don't say next time, say now. If you really want to change, say now. Take responsibility for your life and stop waiting.
As always, it all starts with you.