Okay I want to talk to you guys today about something that has been on my heart for the last few days pretty strongly. This is something that has affected me a lot in my life and I know it has affected a lot of you guys because I get emails and comments all of the time asking me about this exact subject. I want you guys to know that I do not talk about things that I have not struggled with myself, but I am not trying to tell you that this is what you have to do. I cannot tell you what you have to do because I do not control you. But I can tell you what has been hard for me and the strategies I have used to work through them and move forward in my own life.
I want to see you guys stop breaking your own heart. Like I said before I can’t tell you what to do, because your decisions are your own, but if this applies to you then you need to stop trying to force something to work that is not meant to work, and you know who you are if you are feeling called out right now. Listen to me, you cannot force someone else to care about you. You can’t force someone else to be loyal to you. You cannot force someone else to be the person that you might need them to be in your life right now. I know this might be hard to accept, but it is just the truth. Sometimes the person you want most in your life is the person that is the worst for you at the moment. You have got to understand that some things are just not meant to happen. Sometimes things are just not meant to be even if you really wanted them to work out and be great. Some things that came into your life were just never meant to stay.
The more you can accept what is, then the less you will be controlled by what was. The more you can accept the facts, the less you will be controlled by your feelings. Never get so comfortable in your pain that you forget that your happiness is still an option. Be careful not to lose yourself trying to fix something that was meant to stay broken. You need to learn to move on from the things that are keeping you stuck in the past. When you feel stuck in sadness, you have to know that the sadness can be addicting. Like I said, remember that your happiness is always still an option. You just have to be willing to let go of what was. It might not be your fault that you were put in this situation, but it is your fault if you choose to stay in it. Never forget that you have the option to push forward and move on. Staying in the same place is just you breaking your own heart.
It all starts with you.
