Stop Breaking Your Own Heart
I just want to throw this out there just to have you guys think for a bit. I want you to understand something: Nothing in your life can happen continuously without you giving it your permission. I want you to think about that. If you meditate on that for a while, then you will realize just how much power you have to not take in something, to not accept something, to stop tolerating disrespect. Listen, I get it. I know we have things, we have voids, we have hurts in our lives that keep us from leaving places that we know we should not be but we allow ourselves to give permission to them anyway.
One of the things I have said millions of times is this: Nobody can break your heart twice without your permission. And that is the truth. I want you to think about that. You are always in control of what you accept. You always have the power. Now, I know sometimes it feels like we lose it or we forget about it, but it is always there. We are always in control of what we accept.
There are going to be people in our lives that want to hold the power in our lives and sometimes it might feel like they have taken control of us, but that is not true. The only power they can possibly hold is the power you give them over you. We can choose to stop allowing someone in our lives who disrespects us over and over and over again if they don't show any signs of remorse or change. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying that you should just dump anybody who doesn't make you feel absolutely amazing twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week. You will get in fights with your friends and that doesn't make them bad friends. What I am talking about is the people in your life who simply get into the same fights with you over and over and over. I am talking about those friends who don't seem to care that they have hurt you or wronged you. I am talking about those people who never apologize and never accept responsibility for anything in your relationship with them.
When you hold onto relationships where you only get hurt over and over again then eventually it is not the other person who is breaking your heart. If you continue to allow them to hurt you then you are breaking your own heart. You have to be willing to let go of what is hurting you to see real change in your life. Sometimes that means letting go of a relationship that you have had for a very long time, and that can seem very very scary at first, but I promise that is what is going to lead to a more fulfilling life and more meaningful relationships in the long run.
It all starts with you.