Stop Choosing To Be Used
You have got to run towards the pain. Let me be clear, you should not be seeking out pain in your life as a rule, but when growth is on the other side of pain then you have to run through the pain. This has been true for me a lot with physical things like working out and running. I am sure you have heard the term "no pain no gain." Well, I have found that to be true in other areas of my life as well. Whenever I have goals in my life and I have tried for a while to no avail then I get tired and frustrated but it takes pushing through that pain to get where I need to be. I am just going to be real with you. Nobody is ever going to care about your stuff as much as you will. Nobody is coming to do your work for you. If you want to achieve your goals then that is a solo mission that you have to stick through even if there is pain along the way.
A lot of us do not want to go through the pain alone. We feel like we aren't able to get through the pain without people on our team even if that is not always going to be an option. You know, because of that reason a lot of us are way too comfortable with being used. A lot of us are actively choosing to be used by others. Some of you might think, "Trent, no I am not." But listen, if you are in any kind of relationship with someone and you know that situation is bad, or you know that situation is painful, or you know that you are going to be hurt by this person and you are choosing to remain in the relationship then you are choosing to be used. No two ways about it.
Some situation that was outside of your control may have brought you to where you are at but you are choosing to stay where you are at. Maybe that is a significant other relationship or maybe that is just a friendship. I made a vow last year that I am not going to be used no more. If somebody is not bringing to my life like I am bringing to theirs - If a friendship or a relationship with someone is just a one-way street then I know that that is not going to work out and I am going to jump ship. I do not want to be stuck in a situation where someone is using me, I know that the relationship is bad, but for some reason I am choosing to stay because then I become responsible for being used.
If you want to grow in your life then you have to become comfortable with the pain, and if you want that growth to last then you have to leave the relationships that are using you and endure the struggle alone.
It all starts with you.