Stop Holding On Out of Fear
How long will you let fear drive your decisions? This is a hard topic but it might be the most real thing you hear today. How afraid of the future are you? How much is the past keeping you from a better version of the future? How many things would you drop out of your life if you weren’t afraid to let them go?
It can be so easy to let fear run your life. It’s easy to let fear take your relationships to an unhealthy place. It can be so subtle, maybe you don’t even know why you’re holding onto something negative in your life until years pass and you find yourself somewhere you never thought you would be. Take a moment today to assess. Assess the relationships in your life- is fear keeping you from opening up deeper? Maybe you are in toxic relationships and you hold on to them because you fear that you don’t know who you are without them. Maybe you’re afraid that deep down, you aren’t good enough and so you don’t let anyone see you past the surface. What good is it doing you to hold on to that theory? What good is it doing to hold on to that relationship that is only bringing you down?
Uncertainty is inevitable. Fear latches on to uncertainty like a parasite and holds on for dear life. You have to protect your peace by fighting your fear. Let’s say you are at a job that is not fulfilling to you and you know that you would be better off without it. You dread going there everyday but you fear taking that step into the unknown. That’s understandable. But the truth is that you are in control- not your fear. Remember to take a moment and ask yourself in times of doubt- “is my fear driving my choices?” And then ask yourself “what would I do if I wasn’t afraid of the outcome?” Would you quit that job? Would you cut those toxic relationships out of your life? Would you pursue your goals? Would you let someone know you more deeply?
When you start to pay attention to fear and how it affects your life, you’ll start to see it from a mile away. You’ll feel it telling you to protect yourself in a relationship because “you’re not worthy of love.” You will be able to hear the subtle voice in your head that tells you “this job is better than what you deserve.” When you think about pursuing your goals, you can hear it whisper in your mind “you’ll never succeed.” Once you have identified the many voices of fear you can then understand what it truly is- a liar. A pessimistic liar, dedicated to holding you back. What good does it do to hold on to a voice like that?
Take a moment today to let that soak in. It’s rehab time, let’s get it.
It all starts with you.