I am going to talk about some things today that not everyone will like. Maybe some people will disagree with me. Maybe some people will call me insensitive, but I know what it took for me to actually make change in my life. I promise you this, if you are going to follow me then I am going to challenge you because I do not want to allow anybody to just sit in their pain. I want you guys to read this blog and then check yourself, because the problem with pain is this: A lot of people are going through pain, I understand, but just because you are going through pain that does not give you the excuse to act a certain way or talk down on somebody else and give pain to other people. Like, that is just not going to heal you, and so many people think giving pain is going to be the best way to heal theirs, or at least they act like that is what they think. Now maybe I do not understand what you went through, you know, but I do understand what it means to be in a bad place in your life, trust me I have been there, where you feel like there is nothing that could help you or make you feel better and you start to feel hopeless.

I understand that it can be easy to resign yourself to that hopeless place and just take it out on everybody else but here is the honest truth of the matter… If you are staying in the same hurt that you have been in then you are responsible for your pain. Now do not get me wrong when I say this. I know that for a lot of people they are not the ones that started the pain, and maybe you weren’t either. Maybe you were a victim of circumstance and you were dealt a bad hand, but at a certain point it becomes your responsibility to dust yourself off and get back in the game. There comes a time when it is up to you to pursue happiness or stay stuck in the same pain you have been dealing with since you got hurt by someone else however long ago. Now if you want to be unhappy and hateful towards other people forever then by all means you should think of yourself as the victim and blame everyone else. I imagine that will work out really well for you. However, if you really want to grow, if you want to move on from the pain, if you finally get sick and tired of being sick and tired then you have got to take some responsibility for your situation and make the decision to grow. Now sometimes that means letting go of someone or something that is toxic in your life and that can be scary, but if you really want to change then you have to be willing to rise to the challenge. I know you can do it. If you want to grow, then accept the challenge.

It all starts with you.