Stop Playing the Victim
Complaining about situations in your life that you are not willing to change is useless. If you are in a relationship that is robbing you physically, emotionally or spiritually, you have the choice to leave anytime. If you are at a job that steals your peace, you have the option to leave anytime. When you are in a friendship that does not reciprocate your love and affection, you are allowed to cut them out of your life. I’m sorry but someone has to say it. Too many of us allow situations in our life to rob us and we don’t do anything about it. You have the power. This is your life.
Imagine that a thief came into your house while you were sitting on the couch and you watched as they packed up your tv, your table, your jewelry and electronics and didn’t say anything to stop them. Would you do that? No. Then why do you do that in your life when there are situations, relationships, people and fears that are robbing you? It’s your life! This is your home, are you going to let strangers come in and take what they want?
When is enough going to be enough? How many of us would fight to protect our tv but not to protect our peace? How many of us would fight to protect our purse or wallet but not to protect our souls? Where is the logic in that? We need to get to a point where you tell others “I’m not going to allow you into my life to take anything from me.” The reason that some of us are where we are is because we became something that everyone else wanted us to be. We allowed others to come in and take the driver's seat. We allowed others to come in and take what they want. We got used to being controlled for so long that we forgot that we are the ones in control.
When you decide that enough is enough and you are sick and tired of being sick and tired you will come to a place where you are more careful about who you let through that door. Not because you are colder than before. Not because you’ve been burned, but because you know where that kind of person takes you. You know that you have the final say in who runs with you. It’s not mean or wrong or bad to curate your life with the people in it that deserve to be there.
You are not the victim to the situations that you decide to remain in. You are allowing them. If you need a change, make the change. Simple as that. Like I always say-
It all starts with you.