Stop Relying On Them
There's a certain question I get a lot.
People ask me, "What do I do when people don't support me? What do I do when my friends and family, the people who are supposed to be in my corner, are nowhere to be found? What am I supposed to do when no one seems to be showing up for me?"
Let me tell you something—you don't need their support.
You want their support, but needing and wanting are two different things. Don't get me wrong—I love support, just as anyone else would. It feels incredible when the people we care about care about us back. Unfortunately, that's not always what life has in store. Often, our friends and family seem the farthest away. They ignore our progress, and don't push us toward our goals. I know that sucks, but there's a silver lining to every thundercloud.
You have control over your success, regardless of the people who doubt or neglect you. Stop waiting for a reason to move forward. Stop postponing your life over a lack of attention. Stop delaying your dreams, and stop ignoring your purpose. Let me ask you something—if you want to be successful, whether it be seeing your purpose realized or achieving one of your dreams, do you really think that your support is going to come from people who are nowhere near as invested in the interests you are?
Of course not. More often than not, support is going to come from people you don't even know yet. Support is going to come from people who have stayed loyal to their own visions until they intersected with yours. Most of your support will come from people you would never expect it to come from, and if you want to be successful by any definition of the word, it's important to understand that we don't choose who supports us. We don't choose who loves us, and while it's easy to feel sad about a lack of support, you and I both know it won't help you get any closer to your goals.
I am extremely blessed with an incredible support team. There are so many wonderful people in my life who support me, but for every person who has shown me love, there are two more people who have never raised a finger to help me. Some time ago, I realized that my complaints about that lack of support don't help either party. The only things that will work in the long run are discipline, commitment, and a solid work ethic.
Along this journey we call life, each of the people reading this right now will meet people who truly appreciate them. There will be people who see your work, and who appreciate your growth. They will recognize your talent, and they will believe in your dreams. That being said, you've got to do something about your dreams first.
It all starts with you.