Stop Trying To Force It
Today I want to talk to you guys about forcing things in your life. Too many of us are trying to force things in our lives because we are afraid of actually taking the time it takes to find the right person, or find the right job, or find the right friend. The right situation is not going to come immediately. These things take time, and some of us are not willing to be patient and trust the process so we find something in our immediate surroundings and we try to make it work even if it does not work. So we try to force things that should not be forced. Now, just taking the analogy of forcing something is that usually when you try to force something it ends up broken.
You see a lot of us force what we should not force like a friendship, relationship, or job, and then we wonder why we are not happy after we get it. We wonder why, when we get it, we are stressed out. We wonder why we are miserable when we get it. That is because it is not supposed to be the way we forced it to be in our life. Let me tell you something about relationships real quick. If you are in a relationship I believe in fighting for a relationship to make it work, but I do not believe in fighting for it alone. If you are clearly the only one that cares about this relationship and your partner is mentally and physically checked out of the relationship and you are fighting for it all by yourself then maybe you are trying to force something that just is not supposed to work out. The longer you try to force it the worse it is going to hurt when it finally breaks. Sometimes things just need to be let go of in your life.
I know for a lot of us that we are scared of letting things go that have a lot of glaring problems because we do not believe in our own self worth enough. We settle and force the things that are bad for our lives because we seriously do not believe that anything better will ever come along. Especially if it is a relationship, being single can definitely be hard sometimes and some of us feel like we are not ready to do that again so we stay in a relationship that we have to force because it just is not right for us in our lives. Let me tell you something right now and I really want you to hear this. Forcing a relationship will always be worse and hurt more in the long run than being alone and waiting for the right person to come along. I am not saying that it will be easy to be alone, I am just saying that it will be better. And the same goes for trying to force anything in your life. If you can just be patient and trust the process, I can promise you that you will be better for it.
It all starts with you.