Stop Waiting For People
When I say "stop trippin,'" what I mean is stop believing that your life is over when you come across trouble. You may have lost your job recently, had your heart broken, felt alone, or been depressed. I know these things hurt like crazy, but sometimes that sadness, that heartbreak, or that rejection is just setting you up for all of the good that can come in your future. You have to stop believing that "it is always going to be this way." Nothing is always going to be this way.
Many people say happiness is fleeting, but remember that sadness is fleeting too. Heartbreak and pain is also fleeting. None of this stuff lasts forever, so stop acting like it. When you resign to the heartbreak or the lost feeling that you feel right now, you deny your greatness. When you decide not to get back up because you think your life is all over, you deny your greatness. Let me tell you something right now -- each and every one of you guys reading this right now has greatness within, but you have to know how to use it.
You see, what happens for a lot of us is we just sit around and wait for someone to come along to validate us, show us love, pat us on the back, or tell us what to do. We cannot sit around and wait for that, because what if it never comes? Let me tell you something, if you are waiting for the world to tell you how special you are, you are going to be waiting for a long time. Sometimes we have to validate ourselves. We have to love ourselves. We have to take a chance and tell ourselves what to do, even if we might be wrong at first.
The problem is, truly, a lot of people don't want to put in the work. A lot of people don't want to stand up and face the challenges required to change. Let me tell you something, nothing is going to change in your life if you don't actively make those changes you need to make.
I want to be clear that I am not being insensitive to what you are going through. I know it is hard. I know you feel overwhelmed. I know that what I am saying is easier said than done, but the word "hard" does not mean "impossible." There is more to your life, I promise you, but I can also promise you that you never find that more to your life by staying in the same place in your life.
If you are not in a growing environment then you are not going to grow. It is as simple as that. A lot of us are expecting to grow but we are hanging around people, hanging around places that are going to do everything to keep us from growing. Put yourself with the right people, in the right places. Stop believing everything is over when you hit a wall. Get back up and press on.
It all starts with you.