Stop Waiting On Closure
Let’s talk about the past. Are you still holding onto a past relationship? It’s easy to do but I need you to understand this - you aren’t there anymore and neither are they. The person that they were isn't there anymore, the thing that you had with them isn't there anymore. You have to let go of the past. You can’t keep spending your time and your thoughts on something that is no longer a part of your life. This is such a pivotal need in your life.
Never get so lost in your pain that you forget your happiness is still an option. Maybe you are holding on to someone that you fell in love with and they didn’t feel the same about you. That’s hard. I’m not saying it’s not hard. But maybe there is a reason that your relationship didn’t work out. Maybe there’s a better option out there that you never would have seen had you not known the pain of this first experience. Life is long and life is messy. Love is never a regret. Take the good and grow from there. Trust in the future and know that it will work out in the end better than you could have ever planned it.
Maybe you are holding onto the pain of a past relationship and you are carrying it into the relationships that you have now. Sometimes we have the tendency to live out a revenge story in our own lives to get back at someone who is no longer there for us. This road only leads to destruction. I need you to know that. How many other people will you hurt in the process of healing yourself? You can stop the cycle, forgive and forget. You will only poison yourself and innocent people in the process.
You don’t have to let the past dictate the future that you have for yourself. You are in control of your path. Remember this. You have the choice to live under the pain of the past or the fear of the future. Or you can choose to live above it. It’s not always comfortable and it will require sacrifices to get there but when you let go over the closure that you think you need, you might be opening the door to the best decision you ever made. It’s going to be hard. But the good news is that you can do it. People are complex and sometimes you won’t ever get the answers that you want and further than that- you may not ever understand the answers if you got them. People are vastly different and it may never make sense to you but maybe that’s okay. You don’t have a responsibility to have it all figured out, but you do have a responsibility to move on with your life and start living the life that was made for you. It’s rehab time.
It all starts with you.