Success Breeds Jealousy
If Jesus had haters, you’re going to have haters too. You feel me? Success breeds jealousy. When people see you out living your truth, living your life and getting your goals, it reminds them of what they don’t have in their life. They want your life, the quicker that you see that, the better off you are.
You need to understand that everyone loves you until they view you as competition. Everyone loves you until they view you as a threat to themselves, their image of themselves or their business. This especially happens when you start in the same zip code as someone. Where you grow up establishes your starting place and reminds those who are jealous of you that they could have the same thing if they worked for it like you do. But they aren’t putting in those hours, they aren’t focused on the grind like you. So they resent you because they resent themselves. Think about that.
I’ve had this happen many times in my life. When I was working towards the NFL there were people in my hometown that dropped off the radar because of my success. This happened to me when I went into motivational speaking as well. Mentors and friends that helped me at first, then started to view me as competition when my platform started to take off. People will love you until you become a threat in their mind. Watch out for people who are silently competing with you, they want what you have. This is even more true in the age of social media where you have hundreds, maybe thousands of followers keeping tabs on you and your success. People you don’t even know about are waiting and watching for your demise because of their jealousy.
You have to try and understand where they are coming from. I used to have a shirt that said “if I were you, I’d hate me too.” I just thought it was funny, but it does point to the fact that jealousy is a natural human feeling. Does it excuse what some haters do? No. But it can help you understand why you might be treated a certain way by some people.
Maybe you are struggling with jealousy right now. You are not immune to these feelings. But you have to recognize that hating someone else only means that you are not working on yourself. Read that again. All that your jealousy points to is the fears and inadequacies that you feel in yourself. That’s okay to feel jealousy, just use it as a tool to better yourself. Don’t be like the haters in your life that need you to fall for them to feel tall.
You got this.
It all starts with you.