There’s a reason that on airplanes you are required to tend to yourself in an emergency before helping others. How many of you are struggling for air because you are putting others before yourself? The hard truth of the matter is that you are not as valuable to those you are trying to help if you have not taken the time to help yourself first. It’s vital that you understand this.
What promises are you keeping to other people that break the promises you have made to yourself? How many times has your loyalty to someone else trumped your loyalty to yourself? I’m not advising that you break promises or cut your loyalties, I am telling you that your loyalty and promises will be better kept if they first align with the loyalty and promises within yourself. Too many of us have shame towards caring for ourselves. Too many of us confuse selfishness with self awareness.
I’ve seen too many people go down the road of giving out their loyalty to people that don’t deserve to have it. I’ve seen too many people that give out their loyalty to a job that doesn’t deserve it. I’ve seen people give their loyalty to habits that don’t deserve it, friends that don’t deserve it. Where would you be if you were loyal to yourself first? Would you still be in that job? Would you still kick it with the same friends? Would you be stuck in the same habits?
I think we have a tendency to think of ourselves as something different than we think of other people but the truth is- you are a person worthy of having promises kept. You are someone worth staying loyal to. No one will see that until you see that within yourself first. Take a minute today to make a small promise to yourself for just today. See if you can hold yourself to a small goal and work up from there. You have to start this relationship with yourself and prove your worth and reliability to yourself. Only then can you trust yourself.
Stop allowing your good heart to put you in situations that don’t deserve your good heart. Stop letting your honorable loyalty keep you in situations that are literally ruining your life. If you can be loyal to all the wrong things, ask yourself this - how much better off would you be if you took that loyalty and started giving it to the right things. I want you to meditate on that today.
It all starts with you.
