So breaking your own heart is something that I talk about all of the time. I have hit on this point over and over again because I am constantly thinking about new ways to help you guys with this issue and I really believe that this is an issue that demands a lot of attention. This is not something that you will fix with one piece of advice and be done with forever. Breaking your own heart is a problem that needs to be addressed over and over again in your life because you will always be in danger of doing this to yourself. We are all guilty of it, and I can promise you I am guilty of it as much as anybody else.
The main problem I want to address today in terms of breaking your own heart is taking ownership of your life. It is your life, right? So it is your responsibility to take care of yourself. Now some of you are not going to want to hear this and some of you are going to feel more called out with this message than others but if you want to stop breaking your own heart then you have to take ownership of your own life, and what I mean by that is that you are going to have to start setting standards for yourself that do not budge no matter what. Because you need to know that the more settling you do in your life, then the more suffering is in your near future. It is just facts. The more you ignore your worth, the more you are going to feel worthless in your near future. There is a reason Why you have those standards. When you take ownership over your life then you start setting non-negotiables in your life. You stop settling for less in every aspect of your life. No matter how people act, no matter what people say. I have set non-negotiables in my life that people have a problem with. There will always be people that tell you that you are wrong for protecting yourself and not settling. They will tell you things like that you are being selfish.
Let me tell you something right here and right now and don’t forget this: It is never selfish to stop settling in your life. Setting standards that are not up for debate is not being selfish. It is just having enough common sense to protect your peace because you know that you will not be able to help anybody in your life until you have helped yourself enough to keep you sane. Settling will only cause you to think of yourself as worthless and cause your morals to go further and further down until you won’t be able to help anybody else. So the selfish option is not to do anything and to keep settling. Don’t be selfish. Help yourself out and take ownership over your life.
It all starts with you.
