Three Steps to Get Better
In today's message, I'm going to be straight up with you. I'm going to tell you the cold, difficult, truth, and that's that some of you right now are choosing pain day after day.
Some of you are choosing disrespect, and I say that because even though it's true that someone can disrespect you, it's up to you to continue tolerating that disrespect. A situation might bring you misery, but it's your choice to stay in that situation.
I see this every day, and it breaks my heart how many of us choose to stay in places that are less than we deserve. So many of us are choosing to stay in situations that are keeping us from being the greatest versions of ourselves. If you want the greatest version of yourself, you need to start taking your life into your own hands. You need to start making better choices, from how you act to who you pursue relationships with.
If you or someone you know isn't in the best place right now, I'd like to remind you of three things.
Number one is that when somebody has shown repeatedly that they are no good for you, it's time to start believing them and cut them off. Stop believing their inconsistencies, and their false promises, and the bait they try to throw to you to get you back. Start believing in their actions, and if those actions don't paint a picture of a great friend, you shouldn't feel bad removing them from your life.
The second thing you need to understand is that you can't expect you from them. Let me explain that a little bit—let's say you're this over-achiever who fixes mistakes as soon as you catch yourself making them. Let's say you walk through life as a herald of joy and a bringer of light. That's the best way to live life, but unfortunately, not everyone lives life that way. For that simple reason, you've got to stop expecting your values from other people. Not everyone is consciously trying to get better, and not everyone you care about is interested in your self-interest. Many people have ulterior motivations, and that's something you have to be conscious of in order to keep your expectations realistic.
The third thing you've got to remember is that no one can break your heart. No one can drive you into a depression, or make you lose yourself completely. Nobody can break your heart more than once unless you let them, and once you understand how powerful you are, you'll be able to live a much more fulfilling life. It's time to stop settling for bad friends. It's time to take your power back.
It all starts with you.