It’s time to move on. When I talk about moving on, here is what I mean. So many of us think that moving on is more about where we will be moving to next, I’m here to tell you that moving on has more to do with what you are moving away from. How many things in your life are you holding onto because you fear what's around the corner?

For a lot of people, they will stay in a relationship that they know is not right for them because it feels better than being alone. Sometimes people do that with friendships, some people do it with their jobs and stay stuck in a place that never satisfies them. A lot of people stay stuck in their pain because they don’t know who they would be without it.

In order to let go and move on, you have to make the choice to stop settling for less in your life. Sometimes you think you have to figure it out before you leave, but no, it’s about getting away from what it is that you feel trapped in. What you focus on is what you feel and what you feed your soul. You may not know exactly what it is that you are moving on to when you leave but you do know this - you will be moving on to a better version of yourself. You just don’t know the specifics yet, and that’s okay. You can focus your mind and energy on the fact that you are moving towards a better you instead of fixating on the negative in your situation.

Here’s the kicker - understand this truth, when it comes to moving on there is one thing that I know will change your life if you let it. As human beings, we either move towards pleasure or away from pain. When someone gives you something in the beginning, you associate it with pleasure like in the beginning of a relationship, friendship, or job. You tie that thing/person/situation to pleasure and so when you think about it, subconsciously your mind will associate it with pleasure. Life is long and situations change but our associations never do. So even though you feel pain now from the situation, your brain will still fight to show you the pleasure you associated with it in the beginning. This is why it can be so hard to move on. It can be so confusing. So we ignore reality because we want it to go back to how it used to be. We hope and pray and wish that it would go back. You allow what it was to make you blind to what it is.

We all have habit loops. We all focus on the emotions that we have to guide us through life because they can be overwhelming. Your emotions are valid. However, they are not always leading you to what is best for your life. You know the truth though. You know when it is time to move on. Are you listening to yourself when you know that it’s the right time to move on?

It all starts with you.