I want to be clear that I do believe there are going to be times in your life when letting go of whatever is holding you back or what is hurting you is the best thing to do. Sometimes, though, your pain can be your best friend. I know that when things get hard, it can seem so easy to just give up and ignore the pain, but if you allow yourself to properly grieve and then heal from it, you can turn that same pain into power. You can turn that pain into what drives you to be better.

Sometimes it is simple, but when I say simple, you should know that I do not by any means mean easy. I just mean simple to understand. Sometimes turning the pain into your power is as simple as changing your perspective. Whenever hard times used to get to me or I felt like I was in a pit I used to always ask "Why me?" or "Why did this happen?" and I would see the problem as nothing but negative. The change in perspective came when instead of asking "Why me?" I started asking "How can this strengthen me?" and "How can this grow me?" when bad things happened to me.

It is all about shifting your perspective and your mindset from pain to power. I know you are probably thinking about how this is all way easier said than done and you would be right about that, but the more you try, the better you will get at it. You cannot just decide to be better and then all of the sudden you are just magically better. That is not how anything works in life. It is all a process. When you decide to change your perspective it will take time. It will take practice. There will be plenty of times when you fall back into the "Why me?" attitude. There will be plenty of times that you feel like your "change in perspective" isn't helping at all. This is all part of the process of changing your pain into power. Changing your mindset and perspective is hard. In fact, it's really frustrating, annoying, and hard. It will take time.

I know it's always going to be easier to just fall into negative acceptance of the world around you. It will always be easier to accept that the bad things in your life are just the way they are and were always meant to be so you just avoid anything that could ever cause you pain and you turn into the boy in the bubble who never does anything worth doing. The truth is that some things will cause pain, and you can either turn that pain into power or you can hide. So my question to you is, what will it be?

It all starts with you.