Turn Your Setbacks Into Strength
When you're going through tough times, it can be hard to imagine an end in sight.
When you're going through your silent battles, it's hard to believe that anything will ever get better. Trust me—I understand how that feels. I've been in that place before, and I'm willing to bet that most of us have been, even though our struggles all come in different shapes and sizes.
When I look back, I can remember a time I thought my life was over. After I lost my career with the NFL, I felt ready to quit. I felt ready to sit down and give up. For me, life felt like it was over, because I didn't think anything better would ever happen to me. I felt ready to curl up and die, but I didn't.
Looking back, I am truly grateful that I never gave up.
Today, I've got an important message to share with whoever's reading this. If you feel as though you're in a place where you just keep losing, push through. You don't know it yet, but your challenges now will be your blessings later. Like I said before, our struggles come in all shapes and sizes. For some of you, your struggle might be a lost relationship. For others, it might be a lost professional opportunity. Whatever your struggle is, I need you to understand something: things will get better. Your lost relationships, lost friends, and lost job opportunities will later reveal themselves as open doors that were no good for you. With time, you will see your losses for what they are—things that forged you into the best version of yourself.
Sometimes, it takes losing your job to find what you were really meant to do. The NFL cut me off, but in the process, they opened up a whole new opportunity for me. Even though I lost something incredible, losing football was the backwards step I needed to see clearly.
After I lost my job, I was anxious and depressed. I was asking myself, "How am I gonna pay the bills? How am I gonna eat? What am I supposed to do?"
Asking those hard questions is what helped me find my purpose. I truly believe that my loss became a huge blessing, but I wasn't always so faithful.
That's why I sympathize with all of those who are in a bad place and think they're stuck—feeling stuck is a universal feeling that all of us have felt at some time or other. However, how we choose to deal with that pain is what makes or breaks us. Loss and failure can build strength, but only if we let them.
If you are going through a tough time, I want you to think of your trials as lessons. I want you to learn from them and become the best version of yourself ever.
It all starts with you.