Two Ways Love Heals
Most of you probably don't know about this given my occupation, but I'm actually an introvert.
I'm a naturally quiet person, but when I get on this platform and talk about what I'm truly passionate, putting myself out there feels easy. Doing this was a promise I made to my friend about ten years ago. That friend committed suicide, so when you hear me telling you that your life isn't over, I want you to understand that I really mean it, from the bottom of my heart.
In my own life, I carry guilt with me everywhere I go, because I wasn't there how I should have been for my friend. I feel guilty because I know I should have been there for him, and when they found him dead, I made a promise to him and myself. I said, "I'm going to dedicate the rest of my life to making sure that nobody ever feels what he felt again."
I'm not doing this for attention, and I'm not doing this for likes. I'm doing this because I believe in my vision, and I know I have the ability to impact the lives of others in a positive way.
None of us are perfect, and none of us have perfect lives. We all go through what I call silent battles, where we smile for the camera but we're dying behind the scenes. You have all cried for help without saying a word at least once in your life, and if you're going through a situation like that right now, I need you to know that you will get through this.
You'll never win your war by running from your battles. You've got to be willing to face yourself, and you've got to remember that it's okay to not be okay. It's okay to not have everything completely figured out. I took a break from social media earlier this year because I felt like I was losing myself. I felt like I was at a low point, but I was fortunate enough to have an incredible friend help me out.
Don't be afraid to ask for help, and stop being ashamed of your burdens. Don't be embarrassed of your struggle, because no matter how big or small it is, your pain is valid. No matter how alienated your trial makes you feel, I promise there is someone out there who resonates with you and is ready to help you get back on your feet.
I was lucky enough to have some incredible, supportive parents. My mom still calls me, and I'm 34 years old. Not everybody has that. In fact, not everybody has a support system at all. Not everyone has somebody calling to check up on them, so today, my message comes in two parts.
The first thing I want to say today is that you've got to ask for help when you need it. Life isn't always easy, but we're all in it together. We're all here experiencing our own trials, and we're all struggling against something. Don't be afraid to ask for help, because you deserve help.
The second thing I need you to know is that you have the ability to help somebody. No matter how big your platform is, you have a voice. You have the ability to be the light at the end of the tunnel, and exercising that ability is one of the greatest things you can do as a human being.
It all starts with you.