Unconditional Love Doesn’t Mean Unconditional Tolerance. I want to say that again - Unconditional Love Doesn’t Mean Unconditional Tolerance. This is not just for intimate relationships, this is across the board. For your family, your friends, your business - everything. Some of you are so afraid to step on toes that you keep yourself in toxic environments that damage your soul. Just because you love people does not mean that you need to keep accepting toxicity from people. Sometimes you have to learn to love someone from a distance.
You can’t keep allowing someone to steal your peace. You can’t keep allowing people to rob your peace of mind or make you feel worthless just because you want to give them “unconditional love.”
You can unconditionally love someone from a distance. You can unconditionally love someone without giving them your trust. You can unconditionally love someone without letting them rob you of your time and peace.
At some point, it’s on you. If someone has taught you who they are and you keep them around then that is on you. You choosing you is not cold-hearted. You demanding your worth is not cold-hearted. When you start choosing you, you are going to see how people really feel about you. It’s going to show as soon as you make people keep the promises to you.
The problem is that we don’t stay loyal to our principal first. We allow people to have more chances than they have proven to deserve. I don’t believe that you should ever hate someone, but I do believe that you should limit access to people who are taking from you. If you had someone who constantly stole money from you, would you continue to allow them access to your bank account? Why would it be any different if it was your peace that they were stealing? Or your time? Or your self-worth? Is that unconditional love or unconditional tolerance?
The only people who are going to make you feel selfish for doing what is best for you are people who probably only wanted to use you in the first place. That’s just facts. Unconditional love doesn’t mean unconditional tolerance. We have so many people in this world that only want to take from you and you have to keep your guard up for that.
I believe in unconditional love but i am not going to give someone chance after chance after chance to take advantage of my life. What happens when you let people continually take advantage is that your trust gets ruined. And then you make people pay for mistakes they didn’t make. You stop trusting people, you stop loving people. You become cold-hearted. This is why it’s so important to demand your worth.
It all starts with you.
