Some of y’all know this has been one of the hardest times of my thirty six years. I have been to so many funerals of loved ones this month. It changes a person to go through something like this. I want to share with you what it’s been teaching me. It’s been hard realizations but it might be the realest thing you hear today.
When I was visiting grave sites at the cemetery, it got me think about how everything in our world is finite. Everything is going to fade away at some point or another. Including you and me. I know. We don’t like to talk about that but I am just going to be real with you - we will all die one day. It’s going to happen. You can’t change it. One thing that really hit me this month is this - you can’t choose how you die, but you can choose how you live. Are you prioritizing the people that really matter? Are you prioritizing the things that really matter? The people in your life that you love and care about are finite too and at the end of the day, really all we have is each other and our memories. Take a moment today to think about who matters and what matters in your life here on Earth.
How many things in your life should you be giving a funeral to? I don’t mean the things in your life that physically die but the things in your heart that deserve a funeral? How many relationships in your life is it time for you to give a funeral to? I know it’s easier said than done but when you get right down to it, if you want to make sure that you have the right priorities in your life, there will be sacrifices that need to be made. To focus on the right people in your life, there will have to be a shedding of the wrong people. To focus on what truly matters, some things are going to have to die off. I’m not saying this is an easy process but like I mentioned earlier- it’s a natural and unavoidable process. To embrace the reality of death in all forms is going to make you far more prepared for life.
Some things that die in your heart don’t go down without a fight. Some things burn away slow and painfully but it’s a pain that is necessary. Why do we need to have funerals for these things? It’s a good idea to acknowledge the parts of you that once had control in your life, for better or for worse. Acknowledge them and lay them down to rest. Acknowledge the relationships in your life that once took precedence in your life but no longer are the priorities that you’ve decided to hold. Let them lay down to rest. Death is inevitable, but to truly live is rare. Welcome to the funeral.
It all starts with you.
