When You Get Cheated On...
So I do not want to get you too confused with the title of this blog. In this blog, when I talk about getting cheated on I do not just mean in relationships with a significant other. Sometimes we get cheated on at work when we get overlooked for a promotion, or someone takes credit for our work. Sometimes we get cheated on in a sport when someone cheats and breaks the agreed upon rules of the game. Sometimes obviously we do get cheated on by a significant other and the first thought we have comes out of aggression and rage, right? We get mad. We get pissed off and we want to take it out on something. We are angry, and rightfully so, right? We tried to give our all to somebody and they did us wrong. We tried to give our all to somebody and they let us down and now we feel angry and betrayed.
Today’s message is not about somebody else. Today’s message is about you. It is about you and you alone… I got a question for you today. I was running with my boys today and we were trying to see how fast we could go. We went back and forth a couple of times and then I said, “Okay, let’s run one last time and then we will be done.” Well, with that last run we all smoked our time. We ran so much faster than we had that whole time which made me realize something. We all cheat ourselves so much. We do not do our best when we know we should. We do not push ourselves and we end up cheating ourselves. When someone does us dirty and cheats us we get so angry at that person but we do not get angry when we do the same thing to ourselves. We do not keep the same standards that we expect from other people with ourselves. We expect other people to treat us a certain type of way that we are not willing to treat ourselves. So many times in life we just cheat ourselves. We cheat our dreams. We cheat our passions. We let ourselves down. There was a period in my life where I let myself down every single day and I did not get pissed off about it. I just let it be. But let somebody else cheat on me or let me down in that same way and I will be angry. I will be ready to fight everybody. I will call the other person out, but why don’t we start calling ourselves out because it was you who let yourself down. I know this might not be a message that some of you want to hear but this is the life changing message that you need to hear. Too many of us let ourselves down every single day when we say that we are going to do something and then we don’t do it. If you are going to get mad that someone cheats you, you should hold yourself accountable in the same way.
It all starts with you.