Today's message is short, but I think it's seriously important.
Stop letting people use you. Stop letting people treat your life as a revolving door, and stop letting your boundaries down for people who don't deserve you. It sucks when people we care about hurt us. It's hard to cut them off, and it's hard not to let them back in our lives. But let me ask you something—is this your life, or theirs? Why are you living your life for someone else? For that matter, why are you calling that dynamic friendship when it's toxicity? Listen—if you've been following me for a while, you know how important I think taking care of the people closest to you is. You know how important I think showing up for your friends and family is. That being said, when is the last time you showed up for yourself? When is the last time you took care of your heart?
Is it your life, or theirs?
Far too often, I see people losing consistency for themselves. I see people forgetting a crucial fact—that energy is a finite source. When you choose to be consistent for people who aren't consistent for you, you run out of consistency for yourself. If somebody can't be consistent with you, don't waste your time with them. Your peace is important, so start treating it that way! Your heart is something you need to treasure, and your soul is something to shelter from abuse. Do yourself a favor and stop investing in the wrong areas. Stop investing all your trust, time, and energy into people who will only leech off of you. Instead, invest those resources inward. Trust me—you're going to see a difference.
When you start prioritizing your happiness, you're going to become happier. When you understand your worth, you're going to get more of what you need. When you stop settling, you'll realize how much more you deserve. When you come to terms with the fact that not everyone is in love with you, you'll stop relying on people. You'll start relying on yourself, instead, and you'll have the opportunity to become the person you need yourself to be.
I want you to ask yourself a question. Do the people around you really believe in you, or are they out there supporting you because they want a piece of the opportunity surrounding your life? There's an analogy I like a lot—you can give somebody a hundred dollars every single day, but what will happen when you stop? What will happen when you run out of money? Are they going to stay with you for you, or are they going to leave because they can no longer use you? That might seem like a pretty extreme analogy, but unfortunately, it's not innaccurate. Not all of us are giving a hundred dollars a day to each of our friends, but we are all investing something in the people around us. Are your investments good ones, or are they going to break your bank? It's time to start making better choices for yourself, because you're the only one who can.
It all starts with you.
