I want to talk to you guys today about something that has really been on my heart lately. Now, when I talk about this I do not want to upset anybody. I do not want to offend anybody, but I just see so many people out there who feel like they have to settle in their lives. A lot of people keep making the same choices that put them in bad situations and they come to me asking for advice. I get questions all of the time asking about how you can move on or how you can stop settling and so on, but when I get these questions I always feel like the people asking them know the answer. When you ask me these questions I know that ninety-nine percent of you guys know the answer. You just want me to say something to make you feel better about it, or say something to motivate you, but you guys know the answer for the most part.

I just want to challenge you guys right now, like, in every area of your life, just stop accepting less. I know the answers to some of these questions to help you guys but I want you to think for yourself for a second. Why are you staying in these relationships if you know that you should not - if you know you are settling? Now listen, I understand that there is addiction when it comes to love. I understand that the thought of being alone can be scary. I understand that going out into the unknown can be a scary thought so sometimes it seems easier to stay in the familiar situation you know even when you know it is bad for you. I just want to challenge you to push past these problems because really all they are serving as are excuses. If you really want to be in a better relationship and stop settling, then stop settling. Get out of the relationship if you know that it is toxic. Stop believing that you are not worth so much more than all of this because you are worth more.

These excuses tell us lies all of the time. They tell us how hard it is going to be if we broke up with someone and we were all alone. These lies tell us how we wouldn’t be able to make it on our own. These lies tell us that we are nothing without someone else. These lies tell us that this is the best situation we will ever get, but that is just not true. Now, I am not saying that doing this won’t be hard, but I am saying that it will be what is best for you in the long run. If you can just push past the lies that you are telling yourself and realize that you know the answer. Stop pushing the questions away and stop settling in your life. You are worth so much more than what you settle for.

It all starts with you.