Why Don't You Love Yourself?
So I titled this blog the way I did for a reason. It seems to me that what keeps us from loving ourselves on the whole is really just one thing. This one thing is something I talk about a lot, and it is something that I have realized in my own life and have struggled with from time to time, and there are many reasons why I think a lot of us do not love ourselves, but I think the main reason is because of the external. What I mean by that is this: We are allowing something outside of us to determine how we feel about ourselves inside. That is what is stopping us from loving ourselves. We are basing our love for ourselves on our value, but the problem is we just do not understand our value. We think that our value is something that fluctuates based on outside factors. We think that our value is tied to how much money we have in the bank, or by how many friends we see every weekend, or by how many followers we have, or by any number of other external factors.
We have decided to give power to the rest of the world to determine our worth and as a result, we feel unable to love ourselves on the whole. We feel like whenever one of these many factors is lacking it is because maybe we did something wrong or perhaps we are just unloveable and valueless to start with. Of course that is a crazy notion, but all rationality goes out the window when we start focusing on the external to determine how much love we have for ourselves.
Let me tell you a little bit about your value to start with, and it is incredibly important that you hear what I am about to say and take time to meditate on this truth and really take it in: Your value is not up for debate. Your value is set in stone and has been since the beginning of time. From the moment you have been on the scene you have had value because you were created with value. There is value in you just because you are you. Value is not something that you have to earn. Value is not something that you can lose by making the wrong move, or by posting the wrong thing on twitter. Value is not determined by the money you have in the bank, or by the amount of parties you went to in college. Value is not determined by a bad grade you got in school, or a bad day you had at work. You are valuable and that is the end of the story. The love you should have for yourself should have the same kind of consistency and solid loyalty. Do not let things outside of you control how you feel about you.
It all starts with you.