I know there are a lot of us out there that ask ourselves this question all of the time. We think to ourselves, “Why me?” We wonder why we were the ones facing bad luck or even the trauma in our lives. We think, “Why did I have to get cut? Why did I have to get sick? Why did my parents have to lose their job or die? Why did this thing have to happen to me?” I know this question all too well. Personally, for me there have been so many times in my life that I have asked myself the same question. I have sat back and wondered why it was me that had to face the music. Why was it that I had to deal with a crappy situation? Why was it that I had to make the best of this bad situation I was given?
After years of struggling with this question I finally came to a realization that there cannot be strength without pain. So sometimes you have to go through the things you go through so they can grow you as a consequence. It can be a very hard truth, and it is not always a comfortable truth, but it is the truth, I can promise you that. So I need you guys to listen to me here very closely. When you read these words I want you to take time to really think about the message I am giving you guys today. I need you guys to change your mindset if you want to grow. If you want to find strength in yourself, or strength in your situation then you need to stop asking “why me” and you need to change to begin asking yourself “why not me?” Why not you to be the one that rises above all of the bad opinions, all of the doubts, and all of the haters? Why not you to be the one that faces the music and comes out on top? Why not you to be the one that overcomes the bad situation and makes not just good out of what you were given, but the very best that you can and so great that no one would have believed was possible.
If you want to grow and find strength then you cannot stick your mind in this victim mentality state all of the time. You cannot see life as something that is strictly happening to you. You actually have a say in how your life goes. You may not be the one who gave yourself the hurt you are suffering from right now, but you are the one that can choose to stay in that hurt or choose to rise above. The way to rise above is to set a high enough goal that exceeds what you might have thought possible. So stop asking yourself why you are the one suffering and start asking why it couldn’t be you who rises above it all and becomes greater than what you suffer!
It all starts with you.
