Why You Have To Stop Settling
When is enough going to be enough?
Are you really going to go another whole year without carrying out your vision? Are you really about to go another year accepting less than you deserve?
You can change your life in twelve months. It's time to stop talking about the things that you are going to change, and start putting your money where your mouth is. If you want to go another year of exactly the same, don't read this article. If you're ready for some positive change, forge on.
You know that there's something you should be doing right now.
Maybe it's working on a fitness goal, maybe it's going above and beyond for your career, or maybe it's working on your family. Whatever it is, we all have something. There is always a way we can improve ourselves, and that's not a bad thing—it's liberating!
Think about how baby's learn—if you just kept holding a baby's hand, he or she would never learn to walk. If you don't throw yourself into the deep end, you aren't going to have the will to learn to swim.
Sometimes we have to be able to carry people on our backs. Some people aren't strong enough to walk by our sides, and that's okay! But how many times are you going to allow someone else to use you? At the end of the day, it's crazy how much someone stops appreciating you. It's amazing how much people will take you for granted when that's all you've taught them to do.
Many of you are in situations where you're losing yourself because you're trying too hard to save other people. You're trying to help people who are choosing to keep themselves in bad situations. You're trying to free people from these bad habits and these unhealthy lifestyles, and you're saying 'no' to yourself more and more every time.
Let me tell you something—the more you disrespect yourself, the less you'll love yourself. The more you let yourself be used, the less valuable you'll think you are. Why are you letting people walk all over you?
Don't feed someone a fish, day after day. If you feed a man a fish every single day, you are disabling him. You are keeping him from finding a way to catch fish himself. The best you can do is try to teach people—after that, whether or not they succeed is their choice. The most you should do is provide them with a toolbox.
If you teach a man to fish, you feed that man for life. I like thinking about that statement from two different perspectives. First, if you don't know how to fish, your duty to yourself is to go out and learn, whatever that means to you. Second, if you know how to fish, you'll do the world more good by teaching others the skill than by handing out free food.
We all go through both situations in life. We're all fishermen and starving people at different points. Either way, being self-sufficient and refusing to let people use you will keep your belly full.
It all starts with you.