We all need people, and nobody wants to be lonely.
That being said, there's a limit. The line between dependence and sociability is thin, and far too often, we rely on people so much that we give them love we should be directing inward. Trust me—I get it. We all want support. But let me tell you something—sometimes, the people closest to you will support you the least.
We want our friends and family to support us, especially when it comes to our progress. When we succeed, we expect love from the people closest to us—it's only natural. Unfortunately, no one owes anyone anything, so if your success depends on the support of others, you won't get very far at all.
I'll say it again—no one owes you anything. I know it hurts, but at the end of the day, that simple fact won't make or break you. On the contrary, understanding that your life is in your hands and your hands alone will help you conserve energy.
Too many of us give others the power we deserve for ourselves. Too many of us depend on people to make us feel loved, and that neglects an incredibly crucial facet of what it means to be human. Love can come from outside, and love can come from other people, but, more often than not, love has to come from within.
If you want to make positive changes in your life, self-love isn't optional.
Every day, I see far too many people who refuse to take responsibility over their lives. Far too many of us give away our power to people who will only abuse it. When it comes to this self-growth journey, depending on other people too much will ruin you.
Toxic reliance comes in many different shapes and sizes. We expect closure and apologies to heal us. We expect support and love to heal us. I've got some bad news—your healing is your own responsibility.
If you can't give a hundred and one percent of your effort to each new day, you can't expect others to support you. If you can't stay loyal to your vision, you can't expect anyone else to have faith in it. When it comes to success, support is almost paradoxical. Often, we only receive love and support after we've succeeded in our goals. Often, we are only given admiration after we've realized we didn't need it in the first place.
It's time for you to stop asking others for permission to live your life. It's time for you to reevaluate your values, shed your dependencies, and reinvest your energy back into yourself. What are you waiting for?
It all starts with you.
