Today is a hard topic. I want to talk about the death of a loved one. You don’t want to accept that you live in a new normal. You want your friend back. You want your dad or your mom back. You know that when they went, a piece of you went with them. Parts of you that you don’t feel like you will ever get back. You lost a piece of your heart. When my mother passed away, I lost my ambition. I lost my sense of self. I felt like a large part of me died with her.
All it takes is one moment to turn your mind around about your healing. I want to share something that helped me deeply after I lost my mother. I had many sleepless nights. Those same memories that used to bring a smile to my face now bring tears to my eyes. Just know that I will no longer be able to make new memories with the people that I love. I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I didn't want to accept it. But you have to accept it. Here’s why.
I asked myself a very important question in the mirror the other day and I want to share it with you. I asked myself this: “when you die, do you want to be the reason that your kids give up? When I die, do I want that to be the reason that those around me start giving up on their own life? Do I want to be the reason for their depression?”
Of course my answer was “no.” I know that for me, my mother loved so much the things that I was passionate about in my life. She loved to watch me walk in my purpose and I know that she wouldn’t approve of me losing that on her behalf.
Understand this- the best way to honor their life is to continue to go hard for your life. That person that gained their wings in your life, sacrificed so much and they crossed their finish line but you - your race is still being run. You honor them in the way that you live your life. They’ve handed off the baton to you and you still have work to do. I’m not saying that it will be easy and I’m not telling you that you won’t miss them and want them back. Of course you will, you’re human. Let their life be a light and a teacher to your path and rest easy in the fact that they would have wanted you to continue to push through and make a better future for yourself and those around you.
We all will have our last day but while you still have days left here on Earth, we honor those before us by how we chose to spend our time. How are you going to honor your loved ones in this new normal?
It all starts with you.
