Nothing in your life can happen continuously without your permission. Sometimes we need to be reminded that we are in control of what we accept in our lives. When you realize that you have the power to end something, cut off something, to not accept or continue something, you can begin to change your life.
No one can break your heart like you can and no one can break your heart without your permission. Think about that. If there is someone in your life that continually brings you down and you choose to listen to them or to keep them in your life then at that point it's on you. If you find that you are investing in anything that you know will not have a positive return in your life, then that is on you. It can't be understated how important it is to recognize your role and power in your own life and to take responsibility for it wherever you can. People can try to disrespect you and try to tell you that you are something that you are not but at the end of the day - you are in control of what you accept. We have voids that we feel the need to fill and they can keep us stuck in a situation that we know isn't positive in our lives. Where are you settling in your life? Is your current environment bringing you peace and allowing for your growth? Once you define the issue, you can do something about it. Once you have the knowledge of what it is then it is your responsibility to make that change.
Have grace for your ignorance. We've all been ignorant to some elements of our lives. Maybe you've been ignorant to a mindset that has been taking over you for a few weeks. Maybe you were ignorant to a toxic relationship because it's something you hadn't experienced before and that's okay, that's how we learn. You only know what you know and until you start to see something for what it really is so there is grace for that process. Like I said - you one can break your heart like you can and when you become aware of the changes that need to be made and you choose not to then you are breaking your own heart.
Recognize your power. If you don't like your energy level, your looks, your mentality then know this- you've got what it takes to make the difference you want. Know that you are beautiful no matter what but if you decide you want to make changes then you have that power! You are the arbiter of your life and don't let anyone -including you- tell you that you don't. It's rehab time, let's get it.
It all starts with you.
