You Are Losing Authenticity
Have you ever compared yourself to someone else? When I first started doing rehab time, I found myself comparing myself to other speakers. Oftentimes, when you start something new, it’s easy to jump in and compare yourself to the others in that field. In fact, that’s normal to some degree as you are trying to figure out your place in that world.
While it is normal, it’s not always helpful to bring you closer to who you want to be. It’s not always a positive voice in your head. When this starts to happen to me, I will log out of all of my social media and spend some time sitting with myself. If I am starting to feel those negative feelings towards other people in my new field, it’s not because of them, it’s because of me. There’s something in me that doesn’t feel good enough or something in me that is leading me to believe that I can’t reach my goals. So I sit with myself and ask myself what’s really going on. I sit down with myself and evaluate where those emotions are coming from and why I am comparing my journey to someone else’s journey.
Let’s say that you compare yourself to someone that is killing it right now and you think to yourself that you deserve that. You might not deserve that, because you don’t know what it is that they are doing. You don’t know their story or the work that they have put in to be where they are today. So ask yourself what you can do in your journey to get to that place of success. It’s okay to want what others have for yourself, but it’s not okay to hate them for their accomplishments. All you can worry about is you.
The most important reason why it is vital that you don’t try and compare yourself to someone else is because you lose sight of your value. You lose sight of what it is that is special that only you can bring to the table. There’s no competition in that except for with yourself. A competition to find your most authentic and best self and it won’t look like the people you are comparing yourself to. Maybe the only reason that they are so successful is because they found their own voice. Maybe its because they focused on who they are in this field and not on who someone before them was. You can learn from that instead of resenting that. Because the truth is this - It’s a waste of your time to be anything other than what God made you to be. Your worth isn’t going to look like the people that you see around you, it’s going to be different than you could ever imagine it to be. Don’t lose your authenticity by comparing your journey to someone else’s.
It all starts with you.