You Can't Fix Them
When it comes to protecting your life, protecting yourself, and protecting your peace, I believe that prioritizing what is important to you is the first step to success. One of the things I like to say a lot is that peace is my priority. I am sure you have heard me talk a lot about how important it is to protect your peace, and I mean it. I say that and talk about that so much because of how vital I believe it is to living your best life and becoming the best possible version of yourself that you can be. Anything that takes aways from my peace I make a conscious choice to stay away from.
You see I believe that there is this power we have in our lives that for some reason most of us are unaware of or unwilling to be aware of. That power is this: We are in control of what we accept. And as soon as we can understand that we have that power then we can begin to radically transform our lives for the better so we can become that best version of ourselves that we so desperately want to be. The more we understand that we have that power to control what we accept, the more we know that we do not have to settle for less, the more we can let go of things in our lives that just simply do not push us towards where or who we want to be. That is the power that we have. You know, we cannot control what this world gives us, we cannot control what people give us, we cannot control what our circumstances give us, but we sure can control what we choose to accept.
Whatever we allow to stay in our lives because of void, we allow it to control us. So many of us have voids in our lives, in fact we probably all have some kind of void in our lives, but too many of us let those voids determine our choices and what we allow to control us. We settle for less in a relationship with a toxic person because we are afraid of the void of not having a relationship at all. We settle for less in a job because we are afraid of what quitting might mean, or even what trying harder to get promoted might mean.
An even bigger problem that we run into a lot in our lives is the savior complex that we have to fix the people in our lives. Especially if we are connected to them through some sort of toxic relationship. The thing is, if you are in a toxic relationship then “fixing them” is just not an option. For the person in your life to get better they have to want to do that for starters, and after that they have to learn to get better on their own. You cannot just tell them to get better and hope that works. And you sticking around might only be enabling them… So don’t try to fix everyone, and stop letting voids allow you to settle for less.
It all starts with you.