You Can't Save Them
At the end of the day, people have to want your help.
It's a hard truth to swallow, but you can't help everyone. I have a pretty strong personal experience related to today's message, so I'll share it now—a little while ago, I was doing a mud run. I remember myself drowning in the mud, fighting for air, and looking back, I realize that was the key. I was fighting for my survival, and that's what saved me. I was making noise and splashing mud everywhere, which is why someone knew to come and save me. If I hadn't wanted to be saved, I would have drowned that day.
It doesn't matter how badly you want to save someone—before you can do a thing, they have to decide whether or not they want to drown.
People have to want to be saved. You can pray for them, you can exhaust all of your options for them, and you can try to speak light into their lives, but at the end of the day, you can't do a thing until they let you. Often, we end up hurting ourselves trying to save other people. We pour all of our energy into saving people who don't want to be saved, and really, we're doing it in vain, because nothing can truly happen until they make the first step.
It's time to set firm, healthy bounaries on what you will and won't accept. People might call you cold-hearted, and people might call you harsh or even mean, but at the end of the day, you have to protect your soul first. If you can't protect your soul, your life will be too ruined to help build anyone else's life. With that being said, stop focusing on what you can't control. Stop focusing on the people who are eroding your standards and bringing you down further into the mud. Stop focusing on the people who don't want to be saved, because trust me, there will be plenty of people for you to save later on—the key is making it that far.
I want you to draw a line in the sand for yourself. I want you to say to yourself, "I'm not going to accept anything less than my standards." I want you to believe in yourself instead of any negativity you've experienced. I want you to believe in your future instead of your past, and I want you to decide, once and for all, what you want. I've said it before, but I'll say it again—you deserve what you settle for. Stop settling for an unfulfilling life. Stop settling for people who will only try to drag you down with them.
It all starts with you.