You Can’t Always Blame Others
Maybe it’s you. I just wanted to tell you that. If the shoe fits, then wear it and if it doesn’t then don’t. Simple as that. I see it far too often, and I do it too, people will blame the circumstances of their life on the people around them. It’s on you.
There’s a Christian saying “ God’s delay is not God’s denying.” I think that is true. God might be delaying something in your life to prepare you for it. Maybe if you had it now you wouldn’t be ready for it. So often, this isn’t talked about. Sometimes it’s not God’s delay, it’s your decisions. You have to face that if that is the case you are in. Maybe God gave you something and you fumbled it. That’s okay. But it is on you. Maybe it’s not the outside things, maybe it’s you.
I want to tell you this, and it’s true. I know some people don’t want to hear it but I have to tell you this. If people have been telling you something for years and you have neglected to see it about yourself- maybe it’s time you start listening. Maybe the problem is right there in front of you. I’m not trying to hurt your feelings, but some of you need to start looking inward for your outside problems. You have been in the blame and complain mindset and wonder why people don’t want to be around you. I am not trying to condemn you, listen to me- I did the same thing. I had so many people in my life telling me that I was going the wrong way and I wouldn’t listen to them because of my ego. I blamed everyone around me, I blamed God, I blamed the world all before I even thought about looking at myself.
Some things in your life have to fail in your life so that other things in your life can prevail. I want to be clear about this. Sometimes it’s YOU that is making those things fail. Sometimes you have to look in the mirror and call yourself out. If all of your friends and family are telling you that you are disloyal and you are angry at them, you might be pushing away the only people that are being honest with you. Even when you aren’t being honest with yourself.
If you aren’t looking for ways to improve then you can get stuck in a place you don’t know how to get out of. It’s okay to fail, but you need to learn from your failures. It's okay to be corrected by others, but you need to listen to what they are telling you. You have to be the one that holds yourself accountable, because at the end of the day you are all you got.
It all starts with you.