You Can't Control Them
I see too many people worrying about things they can't control.
You can't control gossip. You can't control haters. You can't control the opinions of others. You can't control how people treat you, and I'll be completely transparent here—you can't keep people from trying to use you. You can't keep people from talking bad about you behind your back.
When you're loyal to your vision, people will throw hatred at your feet. When you're moving forward, you're also moving above and beyond. In life, the people who have neglected their visions and chosen to stay stagnant are often the ones who will try to bring you down.
A lot of us busy ourselves trying to control what we can't control. I've listed what no one can control already—we can't fully control the sentiments of others, or, by extension, how others treat us. However, the list of things we can control far outnumbers the list of things we can't. You can control yourself completely, and, as you will come to find, that's all you ever needed.
When someone gives you hate—I don't care who—I want you to remember something. Hatred comes from a place of pride, and it comes from a place of secret admiration. Hatred comes from a place of feeling threatened, so when people give you hate, I want you to remember that hatred is one of the best indicators that you are making big changes.
Stop worrying about the haters. Stop worrying about what people's true intentions are behind their disguises. Stop letting yourself be hurt by people whose opinions are irrelevant to your progress, and stop being influenced by negativity that is only there for the sake of negativity.
A lot of you feel as though you need help. A lot of the people reading this are looking for an escape, or a way out. A lot of people are suffering, and that's something that hurts me every day. Although I am truly proud of all those who have heard my words and changed their lives for the better, it's the people who still need to hear my message that keeps me going. It's the people who feel hopeless, friendless, and depressed that motivate me to spread my positivity.
Rising above isn't easy. Rising above often means saying goodbye to a lot of people, sometimes people who truly matter to you. Rising above and changing for the better means losing friendships with people who don't have the same interest in self-growth, and that's been a huge roadblock for a lot of people on their journeys of self-betterment.
Let me ask you something: Is rising above worth it? Is becoming the best version of yourself truly worth losing some people in the process? If you can answer that question once, you can answer it every single day.
It all starts with you.