I know at times we keep things in our life that we love, we have habits in our life that we like, we have people that we care so much about, but sometimes those people do not care for us in the same way. Sometimes those habits do not serve us. Sometimes we get stuck on something or someone because it is routine and it is what we know and we are afraid to go another way or try anything different even if what we have in our life right now is nothing but bad for us. We will settle for all kinds of things that keep us back or hurt us over and over again if it means avoiding something new and avoiding what we do not know. I had someone tell me the other day that they would rather stay in the known pain than move into the unknown because they don't know what the unknown may bring. It might be better or it might be worse but at least they know what they have right now… Listen to me right now: If you have that mindset then you have to burn that bridge.
You cannot let fear of the unknown control your life. New situations, or at least leaving familiar situations, can obviously be a scary thing, but what is worse is never growing. What is worse is never moving on from a situation or a relationship that is actively hurting you and keeping you from being the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. Do not settle because you are afraid that it only gets worse, because that is just not true. Yes sometimes it will get worse, but it will also get better. That is how all of life is. The unknown is where all of the possibilities live. If you want to grow and try new things and become someone new then you can! That is all up to you. The only person who can choose your path in life is you. If you put that responsibility in someone else's hands then you will eventually question their decision and resent them and/or yourself for it. Start taking responsibility for your own life and start pushing forward on your own path even if it means cutting some people off that you are afraid to let go of.
Doing something for a long period of time or knowing someone for a long time is not a good reason to keep doing that or keep staying with them. If a habit or relationship is not serving you or is even a very negative force in your life then let it go. Stop holding onto it because you feel like that is the kind thing to do. It is not. Sometimes it is better to go your separate ways if that is what is best for both of you. If they are holding you back then you might be holding them back by enabling them to stay away from the unknown as well.
It all starts with you.
