You Don’t Always Have To Be Strong
Last month was the hardest month of my life. Depression is real. We all deal with these silent battles every day. I put up a poll on my instagram and the response was that 80% of people are struggling with depression now more than ever. I just want to tell you this right off the top- you don’t have to be strong.
Maybe you feel like if you aren’t strong then you are not enough or you are letting people down. We live in a world that is obsessed with telling us that we have to keep going and be strong and never stop. And I understand that. But sometimes it’s not about pushing through, it’s about breaking down. Sometimes it's about crying and pleading out to God. Sometimes it's about going through that season and admitting that we are not okay. Some of us feel like we are the strong friend or family member and we are not allowed to show weakness. I felt like that at my mom’s funeral.
Forget being mentally tough by the world’s standards. The world tells you that you have to keep going no matter what, and you don’t. That doesn’t mean you get to quit but sometimes you are allowed to take a break. Sometimes you are allowed to rest. That’s what it means to be mentally tough. I’m more concerned about you pushing yourself so hard and never giving yourself the moment you need to really feel what you need to feel. You’re going to get so burnt out that you decide that life is not worth living anymore.
Some of us are hurt. Really hurt. When you get hurt in a sport you have to take time to recover and you will not perform your best until you do. So why don’t we view it that way with emotional pain or mental pain? Some of you are pushing on because you feel external pressure to keep going. To keep smiling when you’re not okay. To me, a warrior is not a person that knows how to fight, it’s a person that knows what battles to fight. Sometimes the battles aren’t yours to fight. Sometimes the battles are battles that you need to give up to the Lord.
It’s okay to step away. It’s okay to not keep going, it’s okay to disconnect. It’s okay. Because you are dealing with depression. So many times, we hide that depression by pushing on and pretending that you don’t need help. But sometimes the strongest thing you can do is to ask for help.
It all starts with you.