You'll Never Be Happy
I want to talk to you guys today about being fulfilled. I titled the blog based on "happiness," but that word has been overused and misunderstood. Happiness comes in small spurts for small amounts of time. When you feel happy, that's fantastic, but it's not a good long-term goal. The goal we need to be striving for instead is fulfillment and basic satisfaction in our lives. That's not going to come from comparison. So many of us look to other people to see what we should be. We see their chapter thirty and compare it to our chapter two, or even our chapter one. We don't ever see or appreciate what it took for this person to get to this place where they are, whether that be in financial success, the success they have in their marriage, their success in building up their body, building a skill, or even building instagram followers. We have to stop looking at others to see what we are not. Aspiring is fine, but you have to know that building up takes time. You have to be willing to be at the bottom or you will never make it to the top.
Another problem with comparison is that you have no idea where this person you are so heavily and unhealthily idolizing really is in their walk. They could be struggling in their faith or their marriage. They could be fighting all sorts of addiction, whether that be to drugs, porn, or something else. You only see what they allow the world to see, and my guess is that it's just the tip of the iceberg. Most of us stay pretty guarded around other people, and especially online, even though many of us want to give the appearance of being open. We choose to only be open about the things that make us look strong. We don't talk about all of the times we failed or looked like an idiot. We post a video of us playing a great song on the guitar, but we don't show all of the hours of frustration it took to learn it. We don't talk about the times we felt completely stupid, alone, or depressed. We hide that, and, as a result, everyone else starts to believe that when they feel upset that they are alone. We feel inadequate, so we hide what other people also hide, and we end up continuing this cycle.
How do we break the cycle? STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHER PEOPLE. You are you. Do you hear me? You are on your own journey. It's going to take some time, most likely a long time, and it's not going to look exactly like anyone else's journey. The results and the checkpoints don't translate. It's like comparing a bowling strike to a strike in baseball. It doesn't mean the same thing. So stop comparing yourself, and start focusing on you and your journey. Be better than you, not someone else.
It all starts with you.