You Need to Love Yourself
You have to start loving yourself. Many of us have the capacity for love, but we seem to only show love for others. Maybe we fight for others. Maybe we tell others when they're walking down the wrong path, or we do things for them that will help them to grow. The problem is that we never take the time to do those same things for ourselves.
I know a lot of people have told me that it's hard for them because they never saw love. They never had a good example of love from their parents or other family members growing up. I get that. It can be hard to be caring and loving to yourself when nobody else was before you, but you've got to be the one to break the cycle. Let me tell you something. No matter what you believe in, I know that God loves you and you have love in you. It is something built into all of us. It's not something that we have to take a class on. It's something that is already deep inside of us. We've just got to start using it. We've got to start showing it.
Love is not what tears you down. Love is what builds you up. You can make the decision right now. You can start to tell yourself that you are going to honor yourself -- that you're going to honor your dreams and go for it, or honor your body and start exercising and eating right; however, until you put those words into practice, you won't be showing love to yourself. Love is more than promises. It's seeing those promises into reality. Start treating yourself right. Start being loving.
Too often we allow external things to determine the love we have for ourselves. We cannot continue to compromise and be the person we think other people want us to be. We cannot keep compromising our morals, our time, our health to make others like us more. No one worth anything is going to truly like us until we like ourselves. Stop determining your value based on how other people value you. Many people don't love or value themselves, so they end up putting you down to make themselves feel better. We cannot use those people's opinions to determine our greatness or how much we love ourselves. If you're in a friendship that sucks. If you're in a friendship where the other person only wants to talk about themselves. If you're in a friendship where they constantly put you down and bring you to the point of feeling as if you have no value or aren't worth love, GET OUT. Stop giving power to the people that drag you down. Start loving yourself and being selective about the people you allow in your life. You wouldn't let just anyone walk into your house off of the street. Treat your time the same way as your house. Don't give your time for the people that don't build you up. Be kind, but be careful. Take care of yourself. If you aren't taking care of yourself, then you certainly aren't going to have what you need to take care of others.
It all starts with you.