Sometimes, it takes things falling apart for better things to fall into place.
That isn't an easy message to stomach, but I promise you that the sooner you accept that truth, the sooner you can start building the life you deserve. It sometimes takes things falling apart for things to be truly put together, and it sometimes takes the most uncomfortable path to lead your life to the most beautiful place you've ever seen.
The trickiest part of it is that while you're on that uncomfortable path, you have no way of predicting where your life is going to be when it gets better. You have no idea what your joy will truly look like, or even the people you'll surround yourself with when that day comes.
It's hard to appreciate your pain, but you've got to learn to do it anyway. You've got to be grateful when people leave your life, even when being grateful seems like the last thing you feel like doing.
Stop being grateful for your trials retroactively.
Just as an incredible meal takes time and attention to detail, an incredible life takes a whole lot of hard work. You aren't going to see the purpose of somebody leaving your life, and, like I said, that's the trick part. You're not going to grasp the true value of what you've been through until you see the strength and the power and the resilience that it's built up inside of you.
The strength comes later—that's the key here. Whoever is reading this, I've got to tell you something important.
I need you to know that your current situation is not your final destination. Just because something is over doesn't mean your whole life is over. The pain that you're going through will eventually be the pain that you conquered, and the fear that you're experiencing will soon become the fear you learned to overcome.
This chapter is not your story. This moment is not your identity. This pain is not your life. I need you to understand something. I need you to drive this message into your brain. You've got to understand that just as you can't keep the tables from turning against you, you can't keep them from turning in your favor. It's a hard truth, but we have control over far less than we'd like to admit.
That might sound pessimistic, but it's not. We don't possess total control over the negatives, which is why we ever go through our difficult seasons in the first place. However, that lack of control also partially extends to the positives in life. As tough as this moment might seem right now, you can't keep amazing opportunities from entering your life. As much as you miss your past relationships, there is nothing you can do to keep truly incredible people from entering your life.
Keep your chin up, and keep moving forward.
It all starts with you.
