Your Worth Isn't Negotiable
One thing that I see many people doing is negotiating their worth. Instead, they settle in small ways here and there, and over time, they have accumulated a life full of things, relationships, wages that are not what they deserve. You lose yourself one little compromise at a time. When you believe that your worth is negotiable then people will smell that out and they will jump at the chance to take advantage of you. Here is the biggest problem -- you will start believing them. When you keep settling for everything and living life below your pay grade then you start to believe that that is what you deserve. You stay in a toxic relationship with someone who treats you like garbage, or who maybe even cheats on you because you have started to believe the lie that you do not deserve anything better because you are not worth it.
Your values are your values, period. Do not change them for anybody. If they don't like it, that's too bad, but be unapologetic about it. The problem is we change our values to make other people happy. We change our values because we see people who seem well off, or maybe they have a lot of followers on social media and they have different values so we try to copy them to imitate their worth. Let me tell you something -- your worth is your worth and it is inherent to you no matter what you do. It is up to you to live up to your worth, but your worth doesn't change. When you start believing that it is something that other people can decide then they will and believe me they will always let you down.
The worth that other people give you is so fragile. Imagine that you get your worth from instagram followers. What happens when you lose the followers? What happens when your account gets deleted? You will be crushed, right? What about if you tie all of your worth to a significant other? What happens when they break up with you? Does that just mean that you're worthless and deserve to be sad and miserable all of the time? No! Absolutely not. You can't tie your value to something external anyway. It's a lie that you believed for some reason but it was never even a little bit true. Though you may be crushed by the external, your value remains the same. I promise you that.
Your values should be your GPS in life. They keep you from hitting roadblocks and taking detours on the way to being the best version of yourself that you can be. However, your values can only be your GPS if they are solid and not up for debate. This will take some hard lines and tough decisions, but I know you can do it. Hold fast and stick to what you believe is right. Your worth isn't negotiable.
It all starts with you.